Consoling the victim stops toddler hitting
Good morning. Processing a toddler's feelings after they hit often accidentally rewards the bad behavior.
Parenting coach Lisa Bunnage argues that deep emotional discussions after a toddler hits actually reward the aggression with attention. Instead, her framework requires a single firm refusal, immediate removal from the situation, and shifting all parental focus to consoling the victim.
Little kids pick
Discussing emotions immediately after a hit inadvertently rewards the aggressor with attention. Consoling the victim instead shifts the reward away from the misbehavior.
Discipline
Immediate separation for toddler hitting
When a toddler hits, say 'no' once, immediately remove them from the situation, and console the victim instead of discussing the hitter's feelings.
Why it matters: Modern parenting often emphasizes processing emotions, which can inadvertently reward aggressive actions with parental attention.
For: Parents of toddlers exhibiting aggressive behavior like hitting.
“When they're acting bad just say no and then have a consequence... remove the fun from them... and then console the victim. Parents tend to want to discuss all the bad behavior... that's ridiculous.”
ApproachDiscussing big feelings after a hit rewards the aggressor with attention; consoling the victim shifts the reward away from the misbehavior.
Discipline Errors Toddler Parents Make · May 19, 2026
Big kids pick
Arguing about study habits creates defensiveness. Stating plainly that their current method isn't working aligns you with their goals while forcing a strategic pivot.
Communication
Academic intervention conversation script
When a teen insists they know how to study despite failing grades, align with their goals by saying, 'what you're doing isn't working.'
Why it matters: Teens often care about their grades but lack the tools to improve, masking their frustration with defensiveness.
For: Parents of teens who are defensive about their poor test grades.
“I think that the first overture is to say, hey, buddy, you want to be doing well on the tests... And then when the kid's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I got it. My favorite line that I use clinically is to say, well, but what you're doing isn't working.”
ApproachArguing with a teen about their study habits creates defensiveness; stating plainly that their current method is failing forces a pivot without a fight.
272: Why Is My Teen Bombing Tests? · May 19, 2026
Today's Parenting Tips
Actionable advice distilled from this week's parenting podcasts.
Discipline
Immediate separation for toddler hitting
When a toddler hits, say 'no' once, immediately remove them from the situation, and console the victim instead of discussing the hitter's feelings.
Why it matters: Modern parenting often emphasizes processing emotions, which can inadvertently reward aggressive actions with parental attention.
Communication
Academic intervention conversation script
When a teen insists they know how to study despite failing grades, align with their goals by saying, 'what you're doing isn't working.'
Why it matters: Teens often care about their grades but lack the tools to improve, masking their frustration with defensiveness.
Emotional Regulation
Allowing discomfort during OCD resistance
When your child successfully resists an OCD compulsion, allow them to sit with the resulting anxiety rather than trying to fix their discomfort.
Why it matters: Fixing a child's discomfort after they resist a compulsion accidentally replaces the original compulsion with parental reassurance.
Communication
Low-Pressure Reconnection Venues
When trying to rebuild a relationship with an older child, suggest a walk or a drive rather than dinner to remove eye-contact pressure.
Why it matters: Traditional sit-down dinners can backfire when tension is high, causing teens to withdraw further.
Communication
Question-Based Teen Conversations
Instead of delivering lectures to correct behavior, ask your teen challenging questions that force them to mentally process and defend their own viewpoints.
Why it matters: Lectures often cause teens to shut down, whereas intellectual challenges respect their developing autonomy and critical thinking skills.
Communication
Transitioning from teaching to training
When a child hits age 13, shift your parenting style from lecturing to asking questions to help them apply the tools you've already taught them.
Why it matters: At age 13, children transition into a broader world of imperfection and need to learn how to navigate it using their own judgment.
Emotional Regulation
Frustration Tolerance Prerequisite
To cultivate genuine gratitude in your children, you must first allow them to practice wanting an item and not receiving it.
Why it matters: Children accustomed to instant gratification experience a survival-like panic when they cannot immediately acquire what they want.
Relationships
The Guinea Pig Admission
Diffuse tension over past parenting mistakes by acknowledging to your older child that they were your guinea pig and you did your best.
Why it matters: Parents often judge their past decisions using their current wisdom, leading to unnecessary guilt and defensive communication.
Emotional Regulation
Silent proximity for grieving teenagers
When a grieving child isolates in their room, sit quietly outside their closed door instead of forcing a conversation to fix their pain.
Why it matters: Adolescents often withdraw during intense grief or crisis, leaving parents unsure of how to maintain connection without violating boundaries.
Emotional Regulation
Window of presence boundary
If you feel yourself about to react in a way that violates your values, you have left your "window of presence" and must pause.
Why it matters: Recognizing the physical threshold of dysregulation allows parents to step away before causing relational damage.
Emotional Regulation
The lilted tone tantrum response
Completely ignore a toddler's tantrum, and the moment they finish, use a lilted, friendly tone to ask if they want to read a book.
Why it matters: Parents often match their child's frustration, which escalates the situation and gives the toddler emotional control.
Emotional Regulation
The leg-cling ignore technique
If your toddler whines and clings to your leg while you do chores, state what you are doing and then completely ignore the clinging behavior.
Why it matters: Parents often feel guilty doing chores, but toddlers need to learn independent play.
Communication
The BRIEF conversation framework
When discussing sensitive topics with tweens, use the BRIEF method: Begin peacefully, Relate, Interview for data, Echo what you hear, and provide Feedback last.
Why it matters: Tweens are separating from parents and developing their own language, requiring a shift from lecturing to collaborative communication.
Emotional Regulation
The Mom Guilt Equation
When you feel guilt, use Dr. Jennifer Reed's equation—subtract your actual behavior from your situational expectations—to pinpoint exactly where the feeling originates.
Why it matters: Understanding the gap between expectation and reality helps depersonalize the guilt so you can address the root cause instead of spiraling.
Emotional Regulation
Ignoring Verbal Manipulation
When a child says 'I hate you' or threatens to run away, ignore the bait and respond with a bored 'whatever' to remove their power.
Why it matters: Children use extreme statements to test their parents' emotional reactions; staying neutral establishes the parent as an unbothered leader.
Education
Active retrieval study method
Instead of letting your teen reread notes, teach them to write potential test questions and answer them without looking at the material.
Why it matters: High school tests require applying concepts in new ways, making middle school memorization tactics obsolete.
Communication
Reverse-engineered departure schedules
Use a whiteboard to write your flight time at the top, then work backward with your child to estimate and schedule each departure step.
Why it matters: Rushing out the door spikes cortisol for the whole family; visual backward-planning creates shared expectations.
Special Needs
Visual vacation itineraries
Create a simple printed document with pictures of your destination and a rough morning-to-evening flow, leaving open windows for your child's preferred activities.
Why it matters: Travel disrupts the predictable routines that help neurodivergent children stay regulated.
Emotional Regulation
Pre-trip stressor brainstorming
Ask your child about specific travel worries—like unfamiliar bathrooms or strange food—and look up hotel menus or pack specific comforts together.
Why it matters: Addressing specific sensory and environmental concerns before a trip prevents meltdowns upon arrival.
Discipline
The problem with discipline countdowns
Counting to three when a toddler misbehaves teaches them that they have three free seconds to continue the bad behavior without consequence.
Why it matters: Parents often use countdowns to avoid immediate conflict, which delays accountability.
By Stage
What each age group needs this week — patterns across multiple shows.
Teen Communication
The End of the Face-to-Face Lecture
Experts are urging parents of adolescents to abandon direct, eye-to-eye lectures. Instead, practitioners recommend side-by-side activities to lower defenses, coupled with challenging questions that force the teen to defend their own logic rather than passively receiving parental wisdom.
Toddler Discipline
Neutralizing the Audience Effect
A clear consensus is forming around removing parental attention as a currency for dysregulated toddlers. Whether dealing with physical clinging, verbal threats, or full-blown tantrums, coaches advise completely ignoring the behavior in the moment and re-engaging with a friendly tone only after the nervous system resets.
Neurodivergent Travel
Hyper-Specific Pre-Trip Anchoring
Traveling disrupts the predictability neurodivergent children rely on. To prevent vacation meltdowns, specialists suggest building visual daily itineraries with built-in downtime and explicitly brainstorming sensory stressors before leaving home.
Expert Corner
When the psychologists and pediatricians weigh in with specifics.
Gratitude Requires Frustration
Dr. Becky notes that gratitude is a secondary skill that cannot emerge until a child first masters frustration tolerance. If a kid is not accustomed to wanting an item and not having it, their panic crowds out any capacity for thankfulness.
The Window of Presence
Psychologist Celia Bray frames losing your temper not as a moral failure, but as a physiological exit from your window of presence. Recognizing this physical threshold allows caregivers to step away and reset before causing relational damage.
Real Talk
Honest moments from the mic — the stuff that made us nod along.
The Guinea Pig Admission
Dr. Kathy Koch suggests defusing tension with older children by simply acknowledging they were your first draft. Owning your lack of experience when they were younger validates their resentment without requiring you to carry inappropriate guilt today.
Quantifying the Guilt
Dr. Jennifer Reed offers a mathematical approach to spiraling emotions: subtract your actual behavior from your situational expectations. That exact difference is where the guilt lives, changing it from a random punishment into a measurable gap.
From the Conversations
The problem with discipline countdowns
Discipline Errors Toddler Parents Make
May 19, 2026 · 23m · 4 quotes pulled
▶ Listen“They'll keep kicking for those three counts and then they break... there's no consequence for it. All they've learned is I can be rotten and mean for three counts.”
“Parents often use countdowns to avoid immediate conflict, which delays accountability.”
Reverse-engineered departure schedules
TPP 375a: How Can Our Family Navigate Vacations When They Throw Off My Child's Need for Routine
May 22, 2026 · 23m · 3 quotes pulled
▶ Listen“I would write at the top what time, for example, the plane was leaving. And then I would write down below that, what time do we need to be at the gate? And I would do this with Asher.”
“Rushing out the door spikes cortisol for the whole family; visual backward-planning creates shared expectations.”
Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens
Academic intervention conversation script
272: Why Is My Teen Bombing Tests?
May 19, 2026 · 35m · 2 quotes pulled
▶ Listen“I think that the first overture is to say, hey, buddy, you want to be doing well on the tests... And then when the kid's like, yeah, yeah, yeah, I got it. My favorite line that I use clinically is to say, well, but what you're doing isn't working.”
“Teens often care about their grades but lack the tools to improve, masking their frustration with defensiveness.”
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